When Laughter Cries

When Laughter Cries

Two years ago today, the world lost one of the funniest men who ever lived: Robin Williams. The man was a comedic genius, yet this post is not about him specifically. It is about the way the world lost him.

Honestly, I don’t want to talk about this subject because it’s not a happy topic. But this world has lost too many people to suicide, and that breaks my heart.

According to the Center for Disease Control (CDC), suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the US for all ages, and it is the second leading cause of death for 15 to 24 year old Americans. Additionally, it is the third leading cause of death in the world for those aged 15-44 according to the World Health Organization (WHO), so culture, ethnicity, and race don’t matter when it comes to suicide.

Now enough about statistics. What can we do?

When I first think about this topic, my gut reaction is that I have no idea. Life is so precious, and I can’t begin to imagine someone ending their life. I care so deeply about people, and it hurts to think that someone has come to the ultimate conclusion that the world would be better off without them.

So my second reaction is love.

For goodness’ sake, love people.

I mean, isn’t that what God commanded us to do in the first place? Love your neighbor as yourself, right? (I’d put the biblical references here, but since it’s mentioned several times in the bible, God must have really meant it).
I realize I’m a big-picture kind of person, and some of you might need a little more evidence. How about the fact that “80%-90% of adolescents that seek treatment for depression are treated successfully using therapy and/or medication”? (Source: SAVE)

This isn’t the cure-all for suicide. The people I know who have been the victims of suicide were well-loved, so suicide will never just magically go away. But I can’t help but wonder what this world would look like if we all just made a little more effort to genuinely love the people around us and showed a little more patience with annoying strangers.

If you or someone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts, please reach out to a loved one or call the national suicide hotline at 1 (800) 273-8255. It’s okay to not be okay, but it’s not okay to stay that way.

No matter what anybody tells you, words and ideas can change the world. —Dead Poets Society

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The best thing about fall

The best thing about fall

Fall is my favorite season, and I don’t even care that my reasons are all cliché. I love breaking out the hoodie on a cool evening, drinking apple cider, watching football, carving pumpkins with friends, and you better believe I will definitely go out of my way to step on that crunchy leaf. There’s just one problem with fall: it inevitably leads to winter.

If you know me at all, you know I absolutely hate cold weather. Having to bundle up in at least three layers of clothes just to take the trash out is obnoxious. Sure, snow is great around Christmas, but even Santa goes back home the next day.

It would be easy to let the prospect of winter ruin fall for me. Knowing that blistering cold weather is coming could make me miss the magic of a walk on a cool, clear evening. But I won’t let it. Life has a way of blinding us to the awesomeness of the moment. We become preoccupied with what’s coming next that we forget to enjoy the present.

So, in a way, the best thing about fall might actually be winter. Even though the challenge of harsh, cold weather is coming, fall reminds us to slow down and savor the transition. Whether you’re enjoying the company of friends around the campfire, sharing memories with family during the holidays, or making it your secret mission to conquer every crunchy leaf, cherish every moment.

Happy fall, everyone!

This post goes to you

This post goes out to everyone…

to the 9th grader getting ready to start high school…

to the brand new teacher getting her classroom ready…

to the graduate still trying to find a career…

to the employer trying to find the right new employee…

to the girl trying everything to make him love her more…

to the guy trying to impress his girl…

to the kid on the playground who got picked last…

to the kid on the playground who did the picking…

to the insomniac still awake at night…

to the recently divorced, wondering what went wrong…

…life sucks sometimes. Plans don’t always go the way we want, people disappoint us, and vending machines steal our money and won’t give us our M&Ms. Life can be tough and unfair.

But it doesn’t end there. There’s something you should know and never, ever forget…

…you were created for a reason. You were not brought into this world by chance or by accident. Your life has a purpose. Whether you realize it or not, you are impacting the world around you every day. And you have gifts and talents that no one else can do.

God never said life would be easy, but what he did promise is that he would help you through tough times. And that promise is to everyone.

Peekaboo

You know how babies giggle when you play peekaboo with them? They think it’s funny because according to their understanding, that person has literally left. They haven’t developed the mental capacity to understand that just because they can’t see a face that the person is still there.

That’s silly of course because we’ve developed more complex abstract thinking. Thankfully we’ve reached the pinnacle of this type of thinking and understanding. Or have we?

What if our understanding — our complex, abstract thinking — is still vastly limited? What if, in comparison to God’s understanding of the world, we’re like infants playing peekaboo?

That’s not to make us feel down and belittled, but I find that rather encouraging. What if we don’t have to understand everything? What if God understands it all so much more that, in comparison, we still think someone has literally left if we can’t see them?

A Whole New Perspective

Okay, so I really should be finishing a paper right now, but I just had this crazy thought and couldn’t wait to share it.

I’m going to be honest and say that I’ve been really worried lately. I’m graduating one month from today, and I don’t currently have any job security. I’ve been freaking out a little bit about that, until I had a realization a few minutes ago.

I’ve heard over and over and over again that God has a plan. Heck, I’ve even been the one who’s told people that, and I totally believe it. God has called me to youth ministry, I’m doing my part to fulfill that call, and now I need to trust that He will provide. That’s the truth.

Sometimes though, I have a hard time really believing it. I know it’s true, but when I get an email from an HR office saying they’ve moved on with another candidate, doubt creeps in and I wonder how bills are going to get paid.

But then it hit me. An image, really. What if God is bouncing up and down with so much excitement right now because I’m about to find out a little more of His plan? What if something awesome is about to happen, and I’m taking away from God’s excitement by being worried?

Kinda puts the whole “don’t worry about tomorrow” verse in a whole new perspective.

Love, pizza, and other significants

As a persistently single guy, there’s one thing that really bugs me every February, and that’s “Single Awareness Day.” However, it’s not the day itself that bothers me, it’s the nickname people have attributed to it.

Despite the fact that I’ve never had a date for Valentine’s Day (except for Pizza Hut), I actually look really forward to this season every year. It’s a time when we celebrate love, and I think that’s a pretty amazing idea to celebrate. After all, love is far more than just romance.

True love is the most awesome force in the world. It causes people to behave in ways they normally wouldn’t. It brings out the absolute, raw, untamed best in people. It’s what drives us.

To give love is to give all of yourself. It’s to share who you are — all of you — with someone else. Without a second of hesitation. With no conscious thought.

It’s who we are. We are made by the wild, crazy, love of God. Love is engrained in us. We are designed by, for, and to love.

Love is not an object. It can’t be sized, weighed, or timed. It’s a force. A wild, un-channeled, irrational phenomenon.

Many things claim to be love. They may offer things that — at times — may look like love. But only love is completely selfless, for true love is focused on someone other than yourself.

To have a day that celebrates love is, in my mind, a day worth celebrating. If you’re single, be happy for those who have a significant other to share the day with (and enjoy having a whole pizza to yourself). If you have a significant other, cherish your time together. This day is meant for all of us.

Happy Valentine’s Day, everyone!

A balancing act

“There are not three stages in spiritual life—worship, waiting and work. Some of us go in jumps like spiritual frogs, we jump from worship to waiting, and from waiting to work. God’s idea is that the three should go together. They were always together in the life of our Lord. He was unhasping and unresting. It is a discipline, we cannot get into it all at once.” –Oswald Chambers

We’re almost a week into 2015, and if you’re like me, you’re still wondering what to make your New Years resolution. My resolution this year is to write once a day for the entire month of January. You won’t see every day’s result because a lot of the writing will be brainstorming for LEGEND, my coffee break writing story. 

Why don’t I make my resolution for the entire year? Because I want to start out small. I tend to make giant leaps for goals that end up getting me discouraged when I don’t meet them.

The long-term plan is certainly to write every day for the whole year like my best friend Michael who, as of today, has just celebrated his 365th day of writing in a row (congrats, buddy!). But in order to do that, I need to keep things in balance and take small steps to cross the distance. Like Oswald Chambers said, I’ve been jumping around in different areas of my life—school, church, writing, etc.

In our fast-paced culture, we have a tendency to blitz through everything, trying to get everything done by jumping from one area to another. I wonder how different our daily lives would be if we began to see how it all connects. 

I will write every day in January because it fulfills my creative energy, which will help me perform better in my last semester of classes, which will prepare me for a career in youth ministry, which will fulfill God’s calling in my life…

So what about you? What’s your New Years resolution, and how will you be keeping it in balance?